Being intentional in our
marriage and with our children causes us to think before taking action. That’s a good thing! Thinking through our COMMUNICATION will help to avoid (or at
least minimize) conflict. Several
questions to consider asking ourselves include why, what and how we
communicate.
Why should
we be so concerned about our communication? It encompasses every aspect of our relationship and can
either destroy or build up.
Therefore, we should check our heart and make sure we’re “on the same
team” before opening our mouth.
Our desire should be to mutually come to a resolve, for the benefit of
both persons.
What should
I say? or not say? Sometimes the
most powerful message is the lack of words, meaning we put thought into what we
say before it comes out of our mouth.
This gives us time to calm our emotions, instead of blasting the other
person. “Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of
man does not achieve the righteousness of God.” James 1:19
How should
I express myself? Timing can be
everything! Choose a time to talk
when there will be no (few?) interruptions and both of you can focus on the
discussion. Choose an appropriate
location, hopefully a private place.
Let the other person know by your body language and tone of voice that
you want to hear what they have to say and settle things peacefully.
Communication, when used
effectively, is a positive and significant force in your relationship with your
husband...and with your children.
Phil 2:2
“Make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same
love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose...let each of you regard one
another as more important than himself(herself).”
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